Stop Blaming Outside Forces
It can be so easy to blame outside forces for things that sometimes we place blame without even realizing what we’re doing.
For example, when I first got into debt, I put things on a credit card because I thought I had to. My husband had to go to his grandfather’s funeral, I had to get the clutch replaced in my car, etc. Then I sat back and blamed my debt on those outside forces.
The reality though was that we didn’t have to do either of those things. We chose to do them. If we’d acknowledged to ourselves that we were making a choice, we might have given things more thought. Maybe we would have even chosen differently.
The same thing happens on a more insidious level too. The other day I was whining about how little time I had to do the things I want to do. I blamed my lack of time on all kinds of things, all of which were outside my control.
Then it struck me that I was just sitting around whining. The problem wasn’t the outside forces. It was me. And that’s good news, because I can change me.
When we accept responsibility for our actions and inactions, we recognize the power we already have within our lives.