Slay the Green-Eyed Financial Monster
Some people sure look like they have it all, and sometimes we wish we could too.
Maybe our neighbor drives the car we’ve been lusting after, if only we could afford it. Maybe our friend vacations for a month in the south of France, while we…don’t. Maybe our cousin loves his job and is wildly successful at it, while we’re busy trying to find any job at all.
It can be hard.
Sometimes it just sucks. We want the things we want, and we see that others have them, but getting them doesn’t seem to be in the cards for us.
When things like that happen, we often tell ourselves stories to make ourselves feel better. They’re usually along the lines of “They’re probably up to their eyeballs in debt” or “We’d be able to do those kinds of things too if it weren’t for x, y & z.”
Basically, we’re jealous and a little depressed. It’s easier to blame outside forces for not having what we want ourselves than it is to take a good hard look at why we’re really feeling the way we’re feeling.
Which is sad, because if you really want to get or do something — and I mean really want to — you’re a lot better off just saying “Hey, you know what? I’m jealous. I want that too.” — and then sitting down and figuring out what you need to do to get to where you want to be.
Change how you look at things
Instead of looking at the question “What’s the difference between me & them?” with an eye to excuses or explanations that will make you feel better, look at it with an eye to strategy. Ask things like, “What are they doing that works well that I could do too?” and “What am I doing or not doing that might be holding me back?” instead.
That green-eyed monster is really just there to point out areas you might like to see changes in. Open up the closet, shine a light on the monster, and get busy slaying it. You’ll feel a lot better with a plan.