Are You Good at Spending Money?
Are you good at spending money? I’m not.
Well, I take that back. I seem to have no problem spending more money than I maybe ought to — on eating out, things for other people, or stuff that makes the house look nicer.
But when it comes to spending money on actual physical things for myself, that’s another matter.
I can’t figure out if that’s just because I have an aversion to getting stuff in general (which I do), or if it’s also because I somehow don’t think I ought to be buying things for myself.
As sort of a test of this, for more than a year now I’ve been getting release point therapy (which is vaguely like a massage, only a thousand times better) every month. It’s not a physical thing, but it’s definitely just for me.
I still kind of cringe when I spend that money.
I think many women have this problem. They’re fine with buying new outfits for the kids, or a replacement doormat for the front door, or a soft new bed for the dog. But buying something — a physical thing — that’s just for us is somehow harder to do.
I don’t know if it’s that we think we have to justify the things we buy, or what. Clothes might be the exception to that, but then again we usually buy clothes because we “need” them for a particular purpose. Or because they’re on sale, or…you get the picture. I rarely hear a woman say “I bought that jacket because I just wanted it!”
I wonder sometimes if we bought more things strictly for ourselves “just because” if we would actually end up spending less overall. (And maybe be more satisfied too.) What do you think? (And guys, do you have this problem?)